This is a common misdemeanour I encounter as a “writer” I will say and/or write something that is either misinterpreted or comes out the wrong way and they will say.
“You’re a writer…I think you could express this better, etc, etc.”
Either it’s a joke, a slap in the face or some other intention. Is this a common thing for writers to go through?
Here is an example via text message.
Grace: Don’t forget rent is due tomorrow please! J
Me thinking: Oh brother!
Me: I don’t need the reminders. I think I am capable of remembering.
Grace: If you have something you want to discuss with me you do it in person. And as I gave the reminder to Viola it wasn’t personal and it won’t happen again.
Me thinking: Darn it I had a feeling she’d take it the wrong way…oh crap oh crap she is pissed.
Me: I meant it as you don’t have to worry, not as an attack sorry if I upset you and I have rent by the way.
Grace: Well then as a writer, perhaps you should consider how you use your words. I do need to have a second with you tonight if you’re home.
My thoughts: BITCH! Grace scares the crap out of me by the way.
Let’s just say I spent way over the 30 minutes to dwell rule my friend Chris and I instated, but fudge it really pissed me off. I had to thank my mom for the hot chocolate and the bitch when I talked to her today. I was Melzilla earlier…
Any human who rents with half a brain knows the 1st of the month (hear in Canada anyways) rent is due. I probably shouldn’t have said anything, but she’s been reminding me for six months since I moved in. The frustration I feel right now is irritating. As a writer I know words do not belong to me, but to everyone. Why do people think I should word things differently just because I like to write? They fling it at me as a point of attack! What is a writer anyway? I’d like to know Grace’s definition.
So I wanted to give my months notice, but the douche got one on me and is giving me my notice. Apparently I am too sensitive about my boundaries and it’s something I’ve been talking about since I moved in, but what really got me was…This was after she accused me of hiding my peppermint tea because I may have noticed she was drinking it by mistake and she didn’t want me to think she was stealing my food…Oh brother!
Grace: You know for someone who says we (roomies) are passive aggressive your message was passive aggressive.
Me: No it wasn’t, you interpreted it that way.
Grace: No it was passive aggressive. That’s how it sounded.
Me: No words are subject to interpretation, so what I take from words might be different then yours.
Grace: (Irksome grin) So, when you said we were being passive aggressive that was you interpreting it that way?
Me: Yes of course just like you took my message the wrong way from what was intended and that’s your issue not mine.
Grace: OK that’s all I wanted to say…
I am sick of people thinking they understand how I think or how I should act, speak or write because I am thought of as a writer. I am sick of the wisecracks. Is there other crafts or professions who get this too… “Oh you work at Wal-Mart therefore you should know the whole place inside out.” Or “you’re a mom you should be more sensitive.” It’s like I am being defined by a stereotype.
What is a writer? Not all writers are the same, yes some have the master over words and imagination, but some have grammar issues, some cannot spell, some cannot even bare the sight of a dictionary and some are actually equally good at math (I met a writer who had a math degree). Some writers write screen plays, some poems, some journalism related stories. It was like the time the pastor of my church wanted me to write a poem for church about God. Apparently it was a “solid poem” but I took no joy in writing it. I am not a poet! But because I am a writer I automatically should be considered for this task, never mind my areas of writing or preferences are journalism, journaling and writing novels/short stories.
I am not a poet, and I know it, but I am a journalist in waiting and a storyteller at heart, but I’ve been lumped into the “writer category.” And using something that is a part of me as an attack is wrong!
P.S. I got asked to move out in January!